I am someone who stays close to reality while living in and out of fiction books. I detest, downright hate reading non-fiction / real / self-help kind of books simply because I am already living my own reality and I believe I am the sole owner of my thoughts and acts. Why would someone living miles, cities, countries away have an opinion on the way I live my life? However, I was constantly bombarded with pictures and reviews of this bright red book with the world’s favourite cuss word on it written in the world’s favourite (most cliched way) – F*ck.
Hmmm… This one seemed interesting! It intrigued me mostly because it had a cuss word in it and didn’t make me feel like “Oh my God! Another non-fiction in the market and people have the patience to read it!” Its title didn’t sound preachy and it came from an author who was a known blogger and entrepreneur who has a previously self-published book which sold out like hot cakes.
Yes, I am talking about none other than Mark Manson and his new release – The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living the Good Life!
Let me begin with the ideologies that really caught my eye and had me nodding my head.
In the book he says, “Not everyone can be extraordinary – there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.” This resonated with my current life situation and I was like, well, I am worrying too much about not being perfect. Looks like I am not extraordinary after all, like I have always known and that is comforting.
“The path to happiness is a path full of shit heaps and shame,” he writes. Well, I am currently not happy and if that is what it gets to reaching the peak where happiness lies, I think I am strong enough to wait and watch. If nothing goes right, life will steer me towards the next shit-filled path.
“The world is constantly telling you that the path to a better life is more, more, more—buy more, own more, make more, f*ck more, be more,” says Manson. Yes, I agree.
Then he says, instead we should focus on what’s important. This made me stop and think. Am I doing life right? I had a few no’s here and there and that’s what made me think, may be, I am not focusing on what’s really important for me.
“Improvement at anything is based on thousands of tiny failures, and the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you’ve failed at something. If someone is better than you at something, then it’s likely because she has failed at it more than you have. If someone is worse than you, it’s likely because he hasn’t been through all the painful learning experiences that you have,” he writes. This sounded like Manson was speaking directly to me considering what I was going through and it really mattered to me that I read more and more of his thoughts and implement the same in my life.
Mark advocates that you can’t be positive and happy and successful always. The path to success has to see failures and instead of being or doing what the world tells you to, figure out what you truly want and do with it, you will definitely find your way. Your path may be different from someone else’s so work towards it rather than working under the pressure of this society.
It is insightful, funny, profane, and conversational. It directly drills in your mind and makes you think, not the serious way, by like a passing thought kind of way that lights a bulb in your head by just passing by. Understand and embrace your flaws and imperfections, know and accept your limitations, only then will you forgive yourself and move on to bettering yourself.
He’s learnt from his life and shares stories so we learn from ours.
I suggest you throw away all other self-help books and pick this one up because this is the real deal and definitely worth a read.
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