When I check the phone in the morning, when I login into my Facebook account, when I check my Twitter or for that matter when I just glaze through the morning newspaper I only come across one thing the most that is the RAPE news. Twits demanding justice, families crying, politicians blaming opposition as usual. Where is INDIA going with these? Where am I going with this? Where is the world going with this?
If you are a man, you are a part of rape culture in a way. I know that sounds harsh. You are not a rapist, necessarily. But you do sustain the attitudes and behaviors commonly referred to as rape culture. This makes me angry and sad at the same time as any man would react when you see and hear about rapes in India. I totally understand how you feel. That was exactly my response when I heard about rape and when someone told me I was a part of rape culture.
Imagine you are living in the world where women are never safe and could be raped.
When I am in a parking lot at night and see a woman ahead of me, I do whatever I feel is right to make her aware of me so that – I don’t scare her, she has time to make herself feel safe and, if it’s possible, I can approach in a way that’s clearly normal and friendly, in order to let her know I’m not a threat and will not harm her in any way. I do this because I’m a man.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t spend much of my life feeling unprotected. I’ve come to learn that women spend most of their social lives with ever-present, unavoidable feelings of vulnerability. Stop and think about that. Imagine always feeling like you could be at risk like you were living with constant fear.
As men, we always enjoy the extreme luxury of movement and freedom of choice. I can go anywhere, anytime, day or night. But it’s sadly becoming difficult for women. The most saddening part is it’s not just about women but also for the young girls who do not even understand rape and sex.
The same old story continues, and I see yet another news of rape it’s a young 8-year-old girl from Kathua, Kashmir. Asifa Bano was a young girl who belonged to a nomadic tribe. Wait did you say WAS? Yes, sadly she is no more as Asifa’s crumpled body was found in the forest smeared with blood. This is terrible! This is not humanity!
According to police Asifa was gang-raped by several men for days before they found her body. She was forced to take sleeping pills. Eight men have been arrested in connection with the case, and several have confessed, according to police in the state of Jammu and Kashmir, where the killing took place. Two of the accused are police officers who have allegedly accepted bribes to cover up the crime. One of the arrested suspects said he was 15, though police officers, based on a medical examination, believe he is at least 19. But this horrific sexual violence in India has become another battleground in India’s religious wars
In India, brutal rapes and gang-rapes have become daily news. Each time we feel things cannot get any worse, men across this country as if taking that up as a challenge, shock us with another brutal incident.
So why does India have this sexual violence problem, Rape problem?
Lack of safety in public for women:
Women are always unsafe outside their homes. Gang rapes occur on bus, car, dark empty streets, that are not policed properly. There are many streets poorly lit, no security at all. But it does not matter if its dark or its daylight, women and minor girls are being raped brutally.
Encouraging the victims to compromise:
Rape victims are often encouraged by the families and clan councils to compromise fearing embarrassment in front of the society. Rape victims are also often threatened to keep their mouth shut to avoid future problems. This is the reason why several rape cases are not reported. They are blackmailed with the videos and pictures of rape and nudity.
Apathy shown by court and law system:
This not something new for Indians. Everyone is aware of how our court system works. One of the reasons for this is the shortage of judges. It normally takes years for the court to come to a decision which is one reason which encourages rapes. We are still to get special investigating teams to handle rape cases.
Religion and Politics:
Probably the biggest issue currently in India is politics in the name of religion. There have been pathetic statements by the Indian politicians blaming women for the rapes. For example, the way new generation women are dressed. Does this apply to the 8-year-old girl gang-raped so brutally? India has always been a battleground in the name for politics, in the name of religion and it’s nothing new.
I always hear “Let’s make this world a better place to live in”. But are we really making our world a better place? I can go on with the rape stories, but is there a way to end it? It is a whole different story for India when you talk about rape due to our laws and government. India is not the only country there are brutal rape rackets. Well-developed countries like England, America, and China too have uncovered gangs of men grooming young kids to satiate the lust of men who’ll stop at nothing.
We’re all part of this when we ignore this evil just because the victim doesn’t belong to our caste/ religion / political interests. We are part of the rape culture when we say its okay for our friends to cat call or tease women in the streets. We are part of the rape culture when we demean women to second class status with sexist jokes forwarded on WhatsApp, because they’re ‘just funny’.
There’s a whole bunch of things we do that makes us part of this Rape Culture. Read more about it in my upcoming article. Stay tuned to Dopewope.