Did the Olympics committee announce any sort of medal for rape or are the guys from Guinness World Records listing men with highest numbers of rape in their record book? Well, I’m sad to say that like the Indian men are strong contenders. Though India has been struggling with rape culture for a long time, the past few days have just broken all the records. Is there no way we can find a solution to put an end to the increasing numbers of rape and harassment cases?

Even worse is when I hear about minor girls aged six or seven being raped and murdered by men aged forty or fifty. How disgusting and saddening it is, young girls who are unable to understand the difference between good and bad, who do not even understand what sex or rape is are being raped by such animals in our society.

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So, what do you think is the reason for all the rape and the sexual harassment? I believe that there are many reasons, but a few reasons are so strong which are the leading causes of violence against women. One of the reasons that is way too obvious is Patriarchy. Patriarchy has been the biggest problem and one of the reasons for most sexual violence against women. Many men would think that they never committed rape or are not accused of any sexual abuse, then why are they a part of a crime someone else has committed? Well, we all are a part of this rape culture in a way.

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It has always been that men are owed sex because of their maleness. But in reality, no one is ever owed sex.  Not even when they are nice, not when they are powerful, not when they look good, and not just because they are a man. If you want to put an end to the rape culture, it is important to understand how male sexual entitlement negatively impacts everyone, men are no exception to this.

Patriarchy also affects men. There are people who believe that men can’t be rape victims. This is just because, well, men always want sex and their consent is implicit by their existence. But it is a fact that a lot of rape among men is also perpetrated by men themselves.

Here are a few questions you should ask yourself which will help you understand whether YOU too are participating in Patriarchy.

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Do you participate in slut-shaming or fat shaming?

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture. Even if you’re a woman doing so.

Are you one of those who does not hire women in your company because you think that they’ll be man-haters who will not allow you to crack sexist jokes?

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture.

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Do you call women Sluts, Bitches, or Whores? What’s up, bitch or You are such a slut!

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture.

Do you as a woman expect that all the men must be Manly and Tough?

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture.

Do you as a man expect all women to be feminine, soft, lady-like, girly?

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture.

As a woman, do you expect men to ask you out? Payout when shopping with them? Buy you a drink?

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture.

Do you defend offensive or sexual jokes by saying “I wasn’t offended?

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture.

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Do you think certain jobs around the office or home are “men’s” jobs or “women’s” jobs?

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture.

Do you as a man comment on the physical appearance of female candidates or female coworkers?

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture.

Do you as a woman base much of your self-esteem based on your appearance?

You’re fueling patriarchy and are part of the rape culture.

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It is not always women; sexual entitlement also hurts men. Gay men can also act sexually entitled and are themselves negatively impacted by their false belief. So, instead of relaxing when they face rejection, their egos get trashed. Someone has challenged them in what they believe is their right and now they must choose how to react. Most of the men learn to be fine with not getting what they want. Many are OK to continue being in a normal relation, such as friends with the women. But the real problem is with the men who do not know how to react to being denied sex and become a part of rape culture.

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Patriarchy is so settled into the belief systems that we do not realize what we are doing and where we are going with this. Patriarchal mindset is a common enemy. It is fact that it affects women directly, but we cannot deny that it hits all of us.

So, now when you know these things are fueling patriarchy, it’s time that you stop and help us all to put an end to this rape culture.

Fond of words and always look for the right ones to string together to tell a story. Always in search of something new to write. When not writing you will find him watching movies, reading on the internet or listing to Music. A huge Manchester United and Eminem fan.

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